| ..about the mix of love, marriage and money. | | | | brain are not involved at all. |
| 1. The honeymoon was over before it began. | | | | But where does that great love go? And it does |
| Cousin Joe came to your parents' wedding | | | | go. |
| reception drunk, made a speech about the bride | | | | The romantic phase of a relationship is blind. When |
| and her old boyfriend, infuriating your father. His | | | | the blinders wear off you begin to see each |
| father kicked Joe in the shins. Joe howled with | | | | others as individuals. You begin to compete, like |
| rage. The best man dragged him outside and your | | | | siblings. If you grew up with a brother or sister |
| mother spilled red wine on her $1000.00 wedding | | | | close to your age, you know how to fight and |
| gown. | | | | get over it. But, If you didn't have a close sibling, |
| 2. The reception cost $10,000.00. Your mother's | | | | you don't know how--and your spouse does! |
| parents put up $2,000. That's all they could afford. | | | | Then, when the fighting starts the love dies hard, |
| Your Dad's parents didn't put up any money but | | | | unless . . .you both decide to keep it alive,not the |
| they gave them $500 for the honeymoon. | | | | crazy "in love"but a conscious, willing exploration of |
| 3. The honeymoon cost $6,000.00 and it rained | | | | your own subconscious mind, and an open sharing |
| the whole week. | | | | of your discoveries. |
| 4. Your parents spent the first ten years of their | | | | For example, one man told me that he doesn't |
| marriage paying off their wedding. That's why | | | | like to French kiss. He said it gave him "the willies". |
| they waited so long to have you. Those years | | | | His wife was terribly hurt. She felt rejected by |
| weren't a whole lot of fun. | | | | him. He loved her every other way, but his |
| That's one story. There are too many like it. | | | | tongue embarrassed him. |
| The point: our culture builds fantastic illusions about | | | | In writing about his tongue he uncovered the |
| weddings. We spend far too much on them and | | | | source of his embarrassment and spit it out for |
| often suffer great disappointment. | | | | good. |
| I want to spare you that disappointment. | | | | Another way to keep love alive involves |
| I want you to experience the joy of everyday | | | | recognizing the role of projection in everyday life. |
| love and laughter from an inexpensive wedding, | | | | Everyone projects his feelings about himself onto |
| with friends you don't need to impress, in a | | | | others at some time. If I think I am clumsy |
| marriage that lasts because it's based on reality, | | | | today, I notice how clumsy everyone is. If I feel |
| not illusion and hype. | | | | fat, I notice everyone else's fat. If I feel good, I |
| I write from bitter experience. I married twice for | | | | notice how pleasant everyone is today. |
| the wrong reasons. When I finally learned to live | | | | We tend to project our self-criticism onto the |
| alone, support myself, find my own strength, my | | | | ones we love, killing love. Recognizing self-criticism |
| own values, I married again for the right reasons. | | | | will keep love alive. |
| What a relief. What a joy. | | | | Recognizing the source of your attitudes toward |
| So be careful when you read those bridal | | | | and habits with money will save many a fight. |
| magazines and honeymoon ads. Broken illusions | | | | (Try my Money Fight Saver.) |
| are not only painful, they're expensive! | | | | Since love is more important than vitamins for |
| And besides, after the honeymoon you have to | | | | good health, make sure you keep it alive. |
| know how to keep love alive. | | | | As long as you keep uncovering your whole mind |
| Remember when you first fell in love? Glorious, | | | | and sharing it with your lover, you will keep love |
| wasn't it. | | | | alive and live long and wealthily. There are several |
| I'm sure you know why the phrase is "fall in love" | | | | fascinating ways to do this. My website has quite |
| not "step in love" or "crawl in love". You fall, "head | | | | a few. |
| over heels". | | | | Besides, the hidden advantage of using your |
| There is nothing rational about sexual love. It's | | | | whole mind with your lover is laughter, and that |
| called "blind love" because the frontal lobes of the | | | | really keeps love alive. |