Wedding Invitations-Today's Etiquette and Wording

The look of the wedding invitations you send willhouses are now able to offer this print option as
not only says a lotabout you and yourwell, but itis not done by hand.
husband-to-be they will also convey a fair amountSaying It with Words
ofinformation about your upcoming ceremony. SoToday, there are so many different kinds of
it is important to plan thetype of wedding you willfamilies--traditional,blended, divorced, etc.--that it's
have before you make any decisions aboutyourno wonder brides are often concernedabout how
invitations.to word their invitations without breaching any
Based upon the quality of the paper stock,rules ofetiquette. The stationer you will likely be
lettering, color and designyou select, recipients arevisiting soon will have moresamples of wording
likely to make a determination about theformalitythan you will want to see. For now though, I'll let
or informality of the event, thus how they shouldyouglance at a few of the more commonly used
dress. Thecolor of your invitations may suggestforms. These all fall underthe category "traditional."
the color scheme of your wedding.(Bride's parents are hosting)
The quality of the paper may indicate howMr. and Mrs. David Hennesserequest the honor of
elaborate or simple youwedding will be.your presenceat the marriage of their daughter
Choosing InvitationsMiss Ellen Marie Hennesseto
Stationery Stores--Most brides still go to aMr. Mark Peter Brusteron Saturday, the ninth of
stationery store to selectinvitations. Once there,June
you can look at brochures and browseTwo thousand and fiveat three o'clock in the
throughmanufacturers' catalogs. The catalogsafternoon
include samples invitations sothat you can feel theSt. Mary's Church
paper stock, see the true color of the paper,Duluth, Minnesota
andcompare different print options. Knowledgeable(Both bride's and groom's parents are hosting)
clerks will be on hand tohelp you pick out theMr. And Mrs. David Hennesseand
desired color and weight of the paper as wellMr. And Mrs. Clark Brusterrequest the honor of
asthe ink, style of script, and wording for youryour presenceat the marriage of their children
invitations. The only thingremaining for you to doEllen Marie Hennesseand
will be to provide the particulars.Mark Peter Brusteron Saturday, the ninth of June
There are only a few large manufacturers andTwo thousand and fiveat three o'clock in the
they dominate thewedding invitation industry. As aafternoon
result, whichever stationery house yougo to youSt. Mary's Church
are likely to see the exact same catalogs. UnlikeDuluth, Minnesota
private printshops, because these companies(When the bride and groom host the wedding)
mass-produce their products they areable toMiss Ellen Marie Hennesseand
offer you greater variety at a lower price.Mr. Mark Peter Brusterrequest the honor of your
Online Shopping--There is virtually nothing youpresenceat their marriageon Saturday, the ninth
can't buy onthe Internet, including your gownof June
(although I would not recommend anonlineTwo thousand and fiveat three o'clock in the
purchase for your wedding dress, which must beafternoon
properly sizedand fitted).St. Mary's Church
The Internet offers a huge number of sites sellingDuluth, Minnesota
both traditional andunique invitations. If you areThe old rule was that the word "honor" should
bargain shopping for invitations, thealways be spelled
Internet is definitely the place to go."honour." This rule is no longer firmly held.
Keep in mind that you are always taking a chanceHowever, you should alwaysspell everything
when you choose thismethod. There is nothing likeout--names, the date, the time and the location.
being able to feel the quality of the paperor theThere are definite rules regarding the use of
raised lettering to ensure that you will get exactlyinitials. "Doctor" (medicalonly, otherwise the
what you want.professional title is not used) is written in full,
However, knowing how different weights ofunlessthe name to follow is long. "Mr." is never
papers feel and about thedifferent methods ofwritten "Mister," but "Jr." mayalso be written as
printing can help."junior," although the first is preferred.
Private Printers--Because of the availability ofIt is acceptable to use numbers when writing the
mass producersand the tendency of many peopleaddress of the churchor synagogue, but avoid
to shop for bargains on the Internet,private shopsdoing so. Generally, the address (including
are now hard to find. If you have your heart setthestreet name) of the location where the
on trulypersonalized invitations, look around. Youwedding will be held is omitted.
are almost sure to find onesomewhere.You may want to include it if not doing so would
Different Printing Methodsbe likely to cause yourguest frustration--when, for
There are essentially four common methods ofexample, you are getting married in a largecity
invitation printing, eachwith its own benefits.and guests would have to guess which of the
Handwritten--If you are planning a small weddingseveral churches withthe same name you mean.
(meaning 50people or fewer), it is perfectlyIf you do include the address and you are using a
acceptable to hand write your invitations.formal style ofwording, spell out numbers under
Of course, this will be hard work, but you will100. Never abbreviate words such as
save a lot of money."Street," "Avenue," and "Road," and do not include
Engraved--This is the ultimate in invitation printing.the zip code.
Withengraving, the printer stamps the back of theSaving Time and Money
paper using metal plates.If you are pressed for time, ask the stationer if
This raises the print up off of the paper so thatyou can have theenvelopes early. This way, while
you can actually feel thelettering. For most brides,you are waiting for your invitations tobe printed
engraved invitations are much to costly.you can address the envelopes.
Thermography--This is the most common formWhen it comes to deciding how many invitations
of invitationprinting. With this method, the ink isto order, you shoulddefinitely order slightly more
heated to create a raised-letter effectthat isthan you think you will need. Chances areyou are
nearly indistinguishable from engraving.going to need more than you thought. It's a lot
Calligraphy--We all recognize this as another namemore expensiveto place a second order than it is
for fancyformal script. This method is becomingto order extras.
more popular every year, Manyof the printing