| The gift list is one of the elements in the wedding | | | | Certainly people do not think that getting gifts is |
| stationary. In the past, it is sometimes frowned | | | | farthest from the couple's minds. But since |
| upon when couples sent out a gift list to their | | | | gift-giving is a tradition during weddings, the gift list |
| guests. It was thought to be immodest and | | | | should be taken only as a guide in making sure |
| improper because it was making the guests feel | | | | that the newlyweds would like and use the gift, |
| obliged to give a gift. The more that the | | | | instead of ending up with 3 oven toasters or a |
| awkward feeling the guests would have if they | | | | couple of coffee makers. A popular wording that |
| bring a gift that is not in the list or if they do not | | | | can be used is something like "your presence is |
| have any gift for the couple for whatever reason. | | | | more important to us than your present." |
| However, wedding stationary in recent years has | | | | Another area of awkwardness for the couple is |
| seen the increasing use of gift lists by couples. | | | | to whom the list should be sent. If the couple is |
| The recipients are also more open to the concept | | | | not comfortable in giving out the gift list to certain |
| now then ever before. Slowly and continuously | | | | guests, they can just choose the specific |
| developing are some guidelines or etiquette on | | | | recipients for the list. Maybe sending it to just the |
| sending out a gift list together with the wedding | | | | very close friends and relatives would be a wiser |
| invitations. | | | | idea. |
| In some cases, the couples still feel awkward and | | | | When to send out the list is another question that |
| somehow embarrassed when sending a list | | | | some couples think about. Before it was |
| together with the invitation. Couples who are like | | | | considered improper to include the gift list in the |
| these should keep in mind that the key in | | | | wedding invitations. But as times become modern |
| addressing this issue is to make sure that they | | | | and gift lists are considered essential element of |
| use the proper wordings in the wedding | | | | the wedding stationary, it is now an acceptable |
| stationary. The guests know that the primary | | | | practice to send the invitation with it inserted |
| reason why there would be a wedding ceremony | | | | inside. |
| is because the bride and groom love each other. | | | | |