| Getting ready for your wedding, one of the | | | | and should stand on your side. If he is going to |
| biggest events of your life, is a huge task which | | | | take the place of the maid of honor, he will be |
| can be easy or hard depending upon your | | | | referred to as the honor attendant. During the |
| preparation. Your wedding day should be a day of | | | | processional and recessional, he may escort one |
| fun and celebration, not one filled with worry and | | | | of the bridesmaids if there are more bridesmaids |
| stress about things going wrong. When choosing | | | | than ushers, or he can walk alone before the rest |
| your wedding party, always keep in mind that | | | | of the bridesmaids. |
| these are the people whom you will need to help | | | | Similarly, your 'husband to be' can have a female |
| and support you the most throughout the time | | | | attendant who can stand on his side during the |
| before your wedding. To make sure that you | | | | ceremony. She is also referred to as an usher but |
| understand the ins and outs of picking your | | | | should not escort guests, especially female ones, |
| wedding attendants, here are some tips and hints. | | | | to their seats. |
| For your bridal party, select dependable | | | | You and your fiancé should choose your |
| attendants and give each one a copy of the | | | | bridesmaids and ushers among the people that |
| tentative timeline for the day. Make sure they | | | | are closest to you. It is not required or even |
| understand and will be able to accept the | | | | necessary to include your family member as an |
| responsibility of being a member of the wedding | | | | attendant especially if he or she is not close to |
| party. Avoid asking children under three years old | | | | you. |
| to participate in the wedding. If you must, let one | | | | That being said, it may go a long way to make |
| of the attendants walk with the child or pair them | | | | future family relationships more congenial if you |
| with an older child. | | | | consider the feelings of family members as you |
| The number of ushers and bridesmaid depends on | | | | make your wedding plans. Utilizing the skills and |
| how big and formal the wedding is. Generally | | | | special abilities of friends and family can add a |
| speaking, the more formal the wedding, the more | | | | special touch to your wedding and reception. If |
| ushers and bridesmaids you have to include. | | | | there is a family member that, for whatever |
| Although there is no formal rule, you will probably | | | | reason, you would prefer not to be in the actual |
| need to have at least one usher for every fifty | | | | wedding party, there are other ways he or she |
| guests, and also same number of bridesmaids. | | | | may be able to participate in the wedding. |
| However, you can always have as many ushers | | | | He or she could: |
| and bridesmaids as you wish. | | | | - Do a reading during the ceremony. |
| In today's weddings, you may find as many as a | | | | - Sing a solo or play an instrument during the |
| dozen ushers and sometimes even more | | | | wedding ceremony. |
| bridesmaids. It is not necessary to have an equal | | | | - Be the coordinator for decorations. |
| number of ushers and bridesmaids. If you are | | | | - Be a personal attendant. (This person helps the |
| concerned about keeping the numbers even in the | | | | bride on the day of her wedding) |
| processional or recessional, you can have two | | | | - Be the person in charge of helping out of town |
| ushers escort one bridesmaid or you can have | | | | guests find places they need (stores, restaurants, |
| one bridesmaid walk alone. For the dances that | | | | etc). This will take the stress off of the maid of |
| are scheduled at the reception, you can have a | | | | honor and the bridesmaids. |
| guest dance with the extra usher or the extra | | | | - Be in charge of the guest book or gift table |
| bridesmaid. | | | | during the reception. |
| Your bridesmaids are your attendants and they | | | | Your wedding will be one of the most memorable |
| stand by your side during the ceremony. Your | | | | occasions of your life. Your family and friends |
| future husband's ushers are his attendants and | | | | want to be there with you to celebrate so be |
| therefore will stand by his side. If your best friend | | | | sure to enjoy and be grateful for their |
| happens to be male, he can still be your attendant | | | | participation in your big day. |